The Religious Liberty of Parents to Teach their Children their Religious Beliefs

My Summary of this awesome article:

The public schools teach LGBT doctrines to our kids in schools. We as parents are obligated to teach our own children about our beliefs (esp. about the plan of salvation and that marriage is between one man and one woman) in the gospel of Jesus Christ. We must allow our public schools to respect the religious freedom of all and to teach their children what they think is correct and true. We must love those who believe differently about the family and marriage, with Christlike love. We must respect their rights to have their own beliefs and fight for our own religious freedom. We must fight to keep the liberties of all parents to raise and teach their own children their own beliefs.

The Eternal Importance of Family

Learn about Religious Freedom

The Family: A Proclamation to the World (1995)

The Freedom’s Light Festival 2016

The Freedom’s Light Festival

September 15-16, 2016 from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.

at Bountiful Park in Bountiful, Utah

(Free)

The Freedom’s Light Festival is Sept. 15-16, 2016 from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Please attend one of the hours of day or night you can spare. These fesitivities celebrate Constitution Day (September 17th). http://www.freedomslight.us/

The events are open house style with the exception of the late-night programs. These are very important for learning about our history, our liberty, the founding fathers and mothers of our country, the original 13 colonies and their plight, the Declaration of Independence and our U.S. Constitution (includng the Bill of Rights).

The events with the exception of the late night program are for adults, youth and children. There is food available to purchase, but not much of it, so please eat before or bring a sack lunch or dinner. There are boweries to use.

This is worth even a ton of petroleum and time in order to come to it! It is amazing: Extremely fun for children and full of learning for all ages! and you will love that you came! Bring your children or grandchildren! Invite everyone who loves the U.S. Constitution! Plan on at least 2 hours, but to get through all of it you will need more like 4. If you cannot spare but one hour and live as close as or closer than within 30 minutes, it is worth your time! 

Spread the word to all who love God and Liberty!

http://www.freedomslight.us/

The New Preschool System is Crushing Kids and Making Them Hate Learning

This is a wonderful blog post. Make sure to read about the controlled scientific study at the end of the post.

“A more intense focus on academics at an early age, repetitive teaching methods, and subjugation of children to the same insipid tasks year after year is killing their enthusiasm for learning….”

to contitue, click here:

http://freedomnotebook.co/2016/04/28/the-new-preschool-system-is-crushing-kids-and-making-them-hate-learning/

Breastfeeding

This is a story about Superheroes in Mormon-filled Utah, and about my breastfeeding in public, in front of men, uncovered.

I breastfed uncovered in public in front of men for the first time yesterday. I am an endowed, active member of the church. I want to explain why I did this yesterday so that you may understand.

Two weeks ago, I spent 48 hours in Primary Children’s Medical Center with my “failure to thrive” underweight baby. It was awful. It was rough. He even had to feed with a tube down his nose for one whole, long sleepless night.

Because breastmilk is so important to me, I learned to pump and that is what I do now, most of the time. Baby needs to use fewer calories to get his milk, and my milk supply goes up. He formula feeds, on top of whqt I give him. Yesterday’s outing with my family of 8 was all planned out. I brought the bottles, the formula, the electric pump and the manual pump. I brought my cover-up, too.

We went to ride the tram at Snowbird. When we arrived, I forgot I needed to pump milk right then, or lose my milk supply and not have as much the next day. I also might get a breast infection, which means fever, pain and throwing up. But I had forgoten, so we got our tickets, which took much time, and rode up on the tram.

Upon arrival at the top, we heard the announcement that in 20 minutes, we’d be going back down. My brain calculator figured things out. I was supposed to have pumped 45 minutes before. A 20 minute wait to go back down would follow a 10 minute ride down.

Our underweight baby also had to eat. We had the formula and bottles in the van. A walk back to the van and set up time to start pumping would follow one breast waiting for its turn with the manual pump. My breasts felt full and they needed emptying. My husband would have to hike 15 minutes back to a place to get warm water to make a bottle of formula (add 5 minutes). Then it would take him 15 minutes to get back. The manual pump, the cover-up and the electric pump were way down the mountainside in the van. All of this calculating, I did rather fast. I did not even figure a total. I just knew that there was only one good solution.

So feeling like a brave superhero mom fighting for her baby in extenuating circumstances, I asked my husband to hand me the baby. I turned away from the crowd. I pulled up my modest shirt, exposing my breast and my garments to the beautiful cliff and mountains, and put my baby’s mouth over my nipple. He started eagerly sucking. My family and I enjoyed the beautiful scenery, and then it was time to go back and get on the tram.

I turned and started hiking while breastfeeding in public, uncovered, in front of about 13ish men, and many women and children. The men were all heroes to me, all acting like it was not noticed, averting eyes, then speaking as if they had not noticed me, about other things, to their wives, girlfriends, children and grandchildren. The women who felt uncomfortable were also heroes, by holding their tongues and not giving judging looks. What heroes. They probably felt uncomfortable, but it did not show, if they did.

Thank you, all of you on that Snowbird tram, for not saying anything rude to me. Thank you for not judging me. Thank you so much for making it no big deal! You are all superheroes to me, and you make me want to cry from gratitude!

None of these people knew my backstory. None of you know any woman’s backstory, when seeing her feeding in public, exposed. I encourage you to be superheroes, like those in my story. I encourage you to find out a woman’s backstory, and, even then, let the true Judge, be her judge. That is not you. That is Jesus Christ.

I share this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

“She Needs to Teach her Kids That”…They Don’t Have to Share!

I like Alfie Kohn books and from them, I learned why not to make kids share. They were different reasons, but I see this reasoning being just as good. His first reason was, that at that age when parents usually teach them to share, they are not developmentally ready to share. He also said that we, as adults, do not share everything with everyone. I have my linocut supplies, which I would never share with my husband or kids. I hate it when my kids get into my file cabinet. My new, nice books are not to be touched by the kids. Sharing husbands is not what we do in the adult world. I do not share my kids. I do not let whomever, come in my house when they feel the need, because of my golden heart, and share my house. I do not share my private life details. They are mine. See? There are certain things we do not share, even in the adult world! The third reason is this: forcing them will not help them to make the decision themselves. Sharing is kind and it is also their choice. Instead, I say to my kids, before a play date, that we should hide the toys they do not wand to share. I ask, “Which toys do you want to share?” Sometimes I forget. If I do, and the other child wants the toy my child loves, I say, “He does not want to share his car and that is o.k. Would you like to play with one of these instead?”

This will better prepare them for the real, adult world. They will not share everything when they get older. Why should they when they are little? It makes no sense to force them to share!

I do think there is merit in teaching them to share in other situations. For example, with food. If there is only one cookie and my child wants it all to herself, I say this: “If you share, you can eat it in front of them. If you do not wish to share, go hide, and eat it in private.” My kids sometimes choose to share. Sometimes, they choose to hide it wnd eat it later, in private.

They are also learning, that sharing is nice to do and can make the other person happy. I let them learn this on their own, and they do learn it on their own. Sometimes, even with q toy they love, they will, out of the blue, say, “You can use this if you want.” Then they see the other person’s happiness, and smile. They enjoy seeing the other happy. It was their choice, so they are aboe to feel the good feelings that come from sharing. If I had forced it, they would have only felt resentment toward me, toward the other child, and toward the society rules which make them do this thing. They would learn to hate sharing.

I hope this article was enjoyable and that you understand me a little more now!

On “De-schooling” and Me

My friend posted a link on a local homeschool group board. It has really made me think, a lot. Here is the link. It is an article by Leo Babauta. You’ll have to read it, before you’ll understand my blog post today.

http://unschoolery.com/de-schooling

It includes 8 bullet points for beliefs we carry with us, given us by our society and culture. These are:
“Kids should get up early and start learning as soon as possible.
“Students should learn reading, writing, science, math, history, etc.
“Students should be learning at the same pace as others their age.
“They need to learn certain things by the end of high school.
“They need to focus hard and really study and be tested to make sure they’re really learning.
“We need to force them to learn because otherwise they’ll just watch TV and play video games.
“They need to go to college.
“We know what’s best for them.”
I will modify them to what my current beliefs are. They are:

1) Kids can learn without the kind of “focus” school requires, though they will have an even greater focus, when learning things they want to learn. When they are focused in this way, internally motivated, they learn at an exponential rate. I do believe that when in this mode, the “really study” is there, but it is not forced. It is the child’s choice. There are academic subjects that the children will not “really study,” but will learn more slowly, with their own learning style. but they will not remember it well because they simply do not care. I do not believe in “testing.” I do notice, though, when my child wants to understand, but is frustrated. I do notice when their eyes light up, hear them say, “Oh, I get it,” and see that they can do it quickly with little effort. This is how a homeschool mom knows whether their child “really understands it.” It does not, however, necessarily mean they will retain that knowledge. If they don’t use the skills in real life, they will lose them. This has happened to me, with many things my school teachers think I “learned” by “proving it” with a “test.”

2) Kids should get up before noon and we should do the personal, family and homeschool routine, before bedtime. The daily routine includes personal health and grooming, household chores, the learning of the gospel of Jesus Christ, my reading aloud to them and reading to themselves. It also includes 2 additional weekly academic subjects of the day (chosen by me). If they do not do these aforementioned, then every day, at least during the same calendar week, I will push them to “catch up” before they can have “just for fun” (not for learning) technology time, or play with friends.

3) I think my children need to learn the gospel of Jesus Christ, and to have good values and character traits. I think they should love books and enjoy their parents reading to them. I think they should do their part in and learn how to clean the house, cook, and care for their family members. I think they should learn to spell well. I think they should have a regular habit of, and enjoy, reading on their own. I think they need to learn math in order that they might avoid debt and so that, with the entrepreneurial hearts they have, they’ll be able to do well in their future businesses. I think they need to learn science, as it is a part of us everywhere. I think that they need to learn to write and to draw, because knowing how to do these will be essential in their lives and will help them a lot. I think they need to know about their world (geography) and about what has happened in the world in the past (history). I think they need to understand freedom and how to keep it.

4) I would like my kids to have the desire to constantly learn and to progress. I do not believe that others their age learn at “the same pace.” I think all people learn at different paces, depending on their abilities and intrinsic interest levels in each area. I do enjoy instructing my kids and giving them the opportunity, should they want it, to learn all of the things that were required of kids at their “grade level” in public school in Utah from 2003 to 2011 (before the Common Core).

5) I want my kids to learn certain things by the time they reach adulthood. I do not have the same goals that the school system has, but I do have goals for them. I hope they will gradually improve themselves so that by the time they are adults, they will know:
a) To have lifetime habits that will help them keep themselves as healthy and well-groomed as possible
b) To be kind, considerate, good listeners, Christlike, wise, thoughtful, polite, honest, true, chaste, virtuous and to have wonderful manners.
c) To have strong testimonies of the gospel of Jesus Christ
d) To be able to see and understand boundaries in relationships and decision-making; To be able to “stand up” for themselves and their own beliefs and decisions
e) To be “responsible” for their own actions and decisions: To know they are accountable for their own decisions and actions; To understand that there will be natural consequences for their actions and decisions in life.
f) To be hard workers. To be determined. To set their own pace and their own goals. To learn from failure rather than give up because of it.
g) To have been given the “opportunity” (meaning, as stated above, that I “offer it” continuously until age 18, but if they choose not to learn it, that is fine. At least they were given the chance) to be instructed in, all of the things that were required of kids at each “grade level,” in Utah, before Common Core.

h) To be enabled to make and reach their own personal goals as they are on each given day and moment.

6) I believe I need to offer the learning aforementioned, each academic or calendar year, so that if it is that child’s desire (which desire some of my kids have), then they will be at least as instructed as their public-schooled peers. I have promised this to these children, and I must deliver on that promise. I know I will have kids “just goofing off” (with non-instructional stuff) some days, even when I am “offering” instruction. Some days, they will have the eagerness to learn that cannot be held back. On these days, I must give them those opportunities to learn, as well as I am able.

7) I do not believe people need to go to college. I do have the desire to offer them that chance, should they desire it. If that child desires to be ready to enter college by a certain time, I will do my best to give them that opportunity which they desire.

8) I do not think I am “better than” any of my kids, and therefore, do not think “I know what is best for them” in every aspect of life. However, I know I have gained much wisdom and experience in this life which can help my kids have happy lives. I will impart my wisdom when they ask for it. I will offer it but will not force it upon them.

End of the Summer Observations of a Homeschooling Mom

I am expecting a baby in January and my mother-in-law came over and gave my husband a big lecture about how impossible it will be to homeschool when there is a new baby, and can’t we at least send our 4 year old to preschool and our older two to school so that I only have to homeschool one child; And do we realize that we cannot start at 10:30–We have to start at 8:30, and that we have to do it 180 days? I am not having doubts. I’m just feeling frustrated that after nearly 2 years of homeschooling, there are still the lectures. Is there a cure for the after-effects of such lecturing? I need one.

I found these articles online:

http://www.lovetolearn.net/most-important-homeschool-lesson

http://www.mormonmommyblogs.com/2010/11/baby-is-lesson.html

They were very helpful. Also, I have read much about unschooling and, although I do not always use that, there are days when I think that, due to a pregnancy & morning sickness, today is unschooling. I am always surprised how much they do and learn on those days.

I had planned to school year round, but before this summer, my plan was not to unschool all summer. But so it has gone. I have unschooled all summer, and to my happy surprise, they have learned a ton this way. My kids recently became really into the game on the computer, “Times Attack,” by BigBrainz. It’s great because I knew my son really needs to learn to multiply. I did not even suggest it to him. In the middle of the school year, I remember him saying he was sick of multiplication, and wanted to do other math. I taught him probability by playing a fun game, which the kids then wanted to play at every second for a while.

 Just today, I was thinking about my mother-in-law’s opinion, and about the baby coming. The articles helped, but I also realized that, just like the unschooling philosophy says, life IS the lesson. When I have morning sickness, that is life. Keeping care of mom and helping her feel better is sometimes the lesson. Housework is sometimes the lesson. Making sure mom does not forget to eat and learning childcare are sometimes the lesson. Making your own meals and entertaining yourselves is sometimes the lesson.

It’s crazy how great it is just to know the unschooling philosophy, so that when my mother in law, or anyone else, reminds me about how “you have to do it 180 days- It’s the LAW!” I can remember how 365 days a year, my kids are constantly learning, so it is laughable to think that for the majority of the world, thinking that learning 180 days is all that kids need, is normal and acceptable. For me, it’s 365 days a year. They are always learning. It is not always formal, and is never “like public school,” as they’d wish it to be, but for me, it is just great.

Over the summer, I have seen many children, families and women who do public school during the school year, and I have noticed things which have reminded me why I like my decision to home educate the way I do. Here are some of my mental notes for you. These are just things I have noticed from the SUMMER months!

“I can’t believe (that child) is (that old) and mom is still doing that for (the child)! i am glad my children, by that age and much younger, learn to do that for themselves.”

“These public-schooled kids are so pressured all the time! It is unhealthy and insane that the world treats kids this way!”

“Those kids have to be entertained. Those poor moms think it is their job to entertain the kids, and those kids think it is mom’s job to entertain them. How crazy is that? My kids entertain themselves. That is not my job!”

“I cannot believe how many moms don’t look for a solution to a problem with a child, or do not address a child’s needs, because, oh, well, thank goodness, he/she is only here a few months, and school starts again soon, and then he/ she will be back in school. Does she honestly think that is O.K.? Is that not just a way to ignore her child and said child’s needs or problem, because in the school year, mom won’t have to “deal with it” anymore? That is horrible. So many moms feel that way. They just don’t care to deal with it, and are just glad they won’t have to anymore, once the school year starts. That is so sad for the child and for their relationship. Child needs mom. Why has she abandoned the child in this way? The child will still have the same needs and hurts when school starts. Mom will just not have to “see” the needs anymore, and, therefore, will be in the ignorant bliss in which she likes to be. How sad! That child is crying out for help. Why is she not desiring to help?”

 “I cannot believe how, during the summer, these moms think they have to soak up their child and enjoy it all really fast by going on trips and to events constantly, because they know that once the public school year starts, their child will no longer be with them. They have to “speed date” their child, almost, during the summer. How sad. They could keep the child year round, and enjoy the child slowly, day by day, all year round! If only they knew that!”

In conclusion, I’d like to say that I don’t think these things just to judge others, but to confirm MY reasons for home educating my kids, in my mind. I need this, because the barrage of insults, lectures and observations about what I do WILL come and will always be coming, from relatives and many others, and I need these observations to help me to stay strong in my decision to home educate my kids.

It is like the tree that became stronger because it constantly fought the wind. I have to constantly strengthen myself mentally & emotionally in these ways, in order to stay strong in my decision, despite extreme opposition from other people around me.