Tax Refund Means Books and Mess

I know that most mothers who blog about their homeshcooling life paint an idyllic world in order that they may convince others that they should homeschool. I understand why they do it. They do it to counter the negative attacks of the majority of the outside world on homeschooling.

This post will be an honest one about how it is HARD WORK to homeschool! It IS!!! It’s worth it, but it is very hard work! Don’t let anyone make you believe differently! If you are trying to decide and are wondering, I want you to know I highly recommend it but it is not for the faint of heart. I also do not think it is a side thing, to do on the side. It is DOUBLE FULL-TIME work (like an 80 hr. a week job)!

Also, there is no money in it. You are in it for spiritual reasons. You are in it for family. You are in it because you love your kids and because you want to be the one in charge. If you cannot stand having others, like the government, in charge of what your children learn and do for most of the day, these are the reasons for which you are doing this EXTREMELY CHALLENGING thing called homeschooling! It seems impossible. It is not impossible with God helping you. If God tells you to do it, DO IT! If God tells you NOT to do it, please don’t do it. You need His help!

I am going to tell you about the state of the house due to the ordering of books for next school year, which we do much of, with tax refund money. Right now, we are in the thick of it. The children must do their assignments and learning all over the house because I told them 3 weeks ago not to touch the newbooks, which cover the homeschool table.

My lack of desire to decide where to put all of the books has also made extra messes pop up in and at the entrance of, the homeschool room. I absolutely MUST figure out where to put which books, but it is SO MUCH WORK and PLANNING that I do not know where to begin!

I need to do the following.:

  1. Decide what everyone will be studying from April to the end of August.
  2. Take the books they will not use during that period, downstairs.
  3. Put the books they will be using during that time, on the homeschool bookshelf or into the homeschool cupboards.
  4. Go through (Ugh!) the paper stacks and figure out what to do with all of the papers.
  5. Finish cleaning. Vaccuum.
  6. Snap photos and post them on my blog so that you can see I do have a more elevated standard most of the time!

The entrance to the homeschool room.

The entrance to the homeschool room.

The desk in the homeschool room.

The desk in the homeschool room.

papers and workbooks not being used

papers and workbooks not being used

closet and bookshelf

closet and bookshelf

table, including newly purchased books

table, including newly purchased books

Socialization in a Different Light

IMG_2896I quite often get asked about socialization, since my kids are homeschooled. The worry of the folks is that my kids will be weird and will “Stand Out.” Please watch this video at the link below and think about what it would mean for this woman to stand out. It is hilarious and hard to believe. It is what really happens to adults here in this video. If it can happen to adults in a real-world situation, it can happen to your kids in real-life situations, too.

Where do my kids get socialization from, if not from public school? The truth be told, they are mostly taught by me and by one another (siblings). This is not a bad thing. This means that my child will be taught manners, politeness and empathy by me. They will be taught about making friends, bullies and standing up for themselves, by me. When they play with kids they socialize with, all of the homeschool moms are there. They all influence the kids. When they socialize with adults in the real world, as they often do, they are taught social behavior by those adults. Even then, most of those times, I am still there.

Many people think this is crazy and that it means I am too controlling and I am not letting my kids grow up and be mature. The truth from my perspective is, I do not think that before they are mature adults, that they are old enough to be away from me as long as kids who are in public school are away from their parents. I am still training them because they still need it. I do not think that letting go of time with kids is supposed to happen too often before certain ages. I do believe that as kids get older, they can keep the socialization they learned from me when not with me, more and better. For this reason, I allow them to be away from me more and more as they get older.

One thing that appalled me about the Weber County Early Intervention Pre-School I took my son to years ago and stayed to observe, was the following. There was a girl with muscular dystrophy and maybe also cerebral palsy, in the classroom. She cried and cried. I wanted to get up and go comfort her. I did not but I asked the teacher why nobody cared that this girl was crying. The reason, she said, was that she cries like this every time she came there. She told me, “Just ignore her.” A few minutes later, her extremely militant, very cruel physical therapist came in. This therapy was probably something the parents were happy that their daughter could have for free at this government-paid-for preschool program because of her “individualized student plan” needs. I do not think the parents knew what was going on. This physical therapist, who, quite obvious to me, had never experienced the things that this little girl was faced with, called her lazy and stupid, yelling at her, then forcing her to move. The little girl said it hurt and the therapist just kept telling her to move and stop being lazy. All of this, my son and I were supposed to “just ignore.” Everyone else was just ignoring, after all. I decided not to send my son to this place. It was a place of no empathy.

Now watch the video on this blog post (Reason #330 to Homeschool) so that you know what I am rambling about!

God Called Me to Homeschooling

     I have seen this in plenty of Christian Homeschool books. I did not coin the phrase in my title. However, I can testify to you that God wants me to homeschool my kids. He has told me in answer to prayers once before I started bugging my husband about it, once when my husband and I prayed together about it and many times since when I have doubted. I know this is what Heavenly Father wants me to do.

     I know that 1 Nephi 3:7 in the Book of Mormon is true. God does not tell me to do something that He will not help me to do. God WILL show me how to do this. He will guide me. He will prepare a way that I may accomplish what He has asked me to do!

     If God called you to homeschooling and you doubt, stop listening to Satan and jump in. God will help you one day at a time. You CAN do it! I promise! 

     He will guide you and answer your prayers. He will tell you ideas for how to deal with issues as they come up. However, God will not likely:

  • Bring a curriculum to your doorstep
  • Fill our your day planner
  • Force you to pray to Him
  • Tell you when your child is in Pre-School, how you can socialize her in High School
  • Find you a High School chemistry program when your child is in 3rd grade
  • Make your relatives and neighbors stop thinking homeschool is crazy
  • Teach your kids how to do their part in cleaning your house
  • Make finances easy and pain free

     He will do these things for you: When you are worried about High School when your child is not even close to High School yet, He will help you to feel better about it, perhaps by helping you meet someone whose kids are in High School, who is Homeschooling. He will:

  • Guide you to the right places in person or on the internet so you may find the right curricula
  • Help you find people to guide you, or sources, for good organizational supplies, like planners
  • Listen and answer when you pray to Him
  • Teach you how to best teach your child pre-school, by putting ideas/ people in your path to help you
  • Lead you to a good science curriculum for third grade when your child is in third grade
  • Help to soften the hearts of others slowly and gradually over time, as you are faithful and as you pray for their hearts to soften a little more to homeschooling
  • Help you to find guidance which will help you to teach your kids to do their part to clean the house
  • He will guide you to learn how to stay within a budget and work toward freedom from debt (Search for “Dave Ramsey: Financial Peace University.”)